Whether you’re questioning intentions, someone is getting too aggressive, or your “no” isn’t being listened to, Flare is about trusting your gut when you feel unsafe. It’s about taking action earlier in the moment, and not waiting for the situation to become more dangerous. It’s up to each individual member to choose when and why to use Flare. We recommend wearing Flare as often as possible, because you never know when something may come up.
Different situations call for different solutions and Flare will not help in every single situation. Flare is designed for situations that occur most frequently in our lives. We recommend that you take other precautions in addition to wearing Flare. Sometimes that means saying something to the other person who is making you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, calling the police, or using other self-defense methods will feel more appropriate for you in the moment.
Flare is a safety device, not a device for avoiding things that feel safe but we just don’t want to do - like tough conversations or ghosting someone. It is about showing up for ourselves and feeling confident getting outside our comfort zone. At Flare we value empathy, inclusion, embracing who you are (flaws and all), and respecting others. We expect our members to adhere to these community values as well.
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